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Dear Anonymous,

The recovery process is a very long, hard, and bumpy process that is only possible through much personal effort, self realization, and quite a lot of time in the thinking chair. When it seems like love and affection is in the air, things dont also show themselves clearly. Time to clear the fuzz.

In a mix of crazy circumstances, to many miles, and not enough communication, things often crumble when you least expect it. I’ll tell you what I mean.

When you meet a guy in another state, or somewhere where seeing him won’t be happening to often, any kind of relationship can be hard; whether it’s a friendship, or an amazingly strong relationship. This happens for many reasons and is actually quite common.

1. Often times, the people that fall in love, or the people that really like each other, tend to be of a young age and still live with their parents. This right here presents a major obstacle in the fact that both parties would need permission from their parents just to have a small chance at visiting each other. You then need to get permission to see each other on a day that the other person has permission to see you. This is often quite hard and the days very rarely match up.

2. Another very common obstacle is the lack of self transportation. How are you going to get yourself up there to see the person? Are you going to make your parents drive you all over or do you have a car of your own? Having to rely on your parents can make the visitations can be a major downfall.

3. Often times, people who meet long distance and hope to continue their relationship lack the physical association that people who date in person have. This often causes many problems. One would be that if one of the people finds someone they can have a physical relationship with, they usually drop the long distance one and go for the physical reality.

Now, please don't think that I don't sympathize with you, because I really do. I have been in your situation many times and am actually in that situation now. One thing you have to realize before going into such a relationship, is that the problems listed above, can and do happen. Before rushing in, take a moment to consider everything that could happen, and make sure that you don't get to extremely attached in order to avoid any pain when it doesn’t go as amazingly as you thought.

In your situation, things become much harder, so here is my advice for you. Since you have such an open heart for guys, do your best to stay away from them emotionally till you are more stable. Throwing yourself at every guy you see can have severely devastating consequences in the future. As your taking your break from guys, do your best to sit back and think of qualities that you want in your future husband, then once you’ve set them, raise them a little. Then see who you still have a liking for.

The process of getting over a guy you have fallen for is something that is almost not possible. The one thing you need to remember is that if you really do like the guy for more reasons than selfish ones, you will allow him to move on with his current relationship. You will realize that he is happy and then it will give you the ability to move on yourself. You need to hold back and take a second look at everything that has been going on in your life, settle yourself down, and then continue on. A young person like you still has a very fun, adventure filled life ahead of you. Don't let one downhill long distance relationship ruin it. Live strong. Be strong.