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     Ah, what a wonderful time. You have found someone, that you feel meets all the requirements. You enjoy your time with them, maybe even known him forever. You never thought you would feel about them like this, but the feelings have been creeping up for a while. You realize, all of a sudden, that you just might love him. He makes you happy, spends time with you, and you guys have all kinds of good memories.

     So, you set off on a mission to find out what they think of you. Sometimes you get lucky, you find out he was just too shy to tell you he has feelings for you to. But, what happens when your long awaited dream of happiness with the man you loves, becomes clouded with the sickening fact that... He doesn’t feel the same way about you. Many people would feel horrible. You might feel like all your dreams have been crushed, all in one day. What else could possibly go wrong?

     Well, the first thing to do is to be positive. Nothing ruins further days like a sour attitude. Yes, of course you are going to be sad for quite a while as you get over the bad news you received earlier, but after a while, it’s time to cheer up. While crying is good for the soul, too much can be a bad thing. Now, you might ask, what is it that I can do to get over this guy? I mean I’m in love with this guy!

     Well, step one: find people you can talk to. Talk to close friends about the situation and see what they have to say about it. Many times, friends are what get you through even the hardest times. Listen to things that make sense. Also, remember not to close up. Many times, friends have good advice to offer, but it often comes in a painful way. They say things that we need to hear, but we shun them because we don’t want to take the pain. Things aren’t always easy, so make sure you do what’s necessary to make the hard things become easy.

     Step two: find a hobby, or focus on one that you already have. Taking your mind off the guy can really help. By focusing on other activities such as church, sports, arts, etc. you in turn create a whole new source of attention. You then move your minds focus from the pain, to the joy of the hobby. Soon after that, you begin to see the pain slipping from your mind as you realize that the past is the past, and that the future is much brighter.

     Step three: follow this poem:

There are moments in life when you miss someone so much that you just want to pick them from your dreams and hug them for real…

When the door of happiness closes, another opens, but often times we look so long at the closed door that we don’t see the one which has been opened for us…

Don’t go for looks; they can deceive. Don’t go for wealth; even that fades away. Go for someone who makes you smile because it takes only a smile to make a dark day seem bright. Find the one that makes your heart smile…

Dream what you want to dream; go where you want to go; be what you want t be. Because you have only one life and one chance to do all the things you want to do…

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way…

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past. You can’t go on well in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. . .