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            Have you ever met that one person who you seem to never be able to forget? Do you constantly go back to them no matter what they do to you, and they seem to have this iron grip on your love? Well here are some things that I recommend. Sometimes, a good solution to this problem seems to be impossible to find but it isn't. The only solution to this situation that is impossible to find is the 'perfect' solution. So don't lose hope.

            Here is one of the most common scenarios. "We normally talk about hanging out and 'doing stuff we both know we want to do.' Occasionally we talk about other things like each other's day or other normal every day topics but it always seems to include things about 'us'. Sometimes he brings up the topic of getting together and stuff like that." You and the guy started off with an unforgettable moment. You skipped some of the small talk and started off the friendship with a BANG. A few days later things seem to be moving opposite ways between you guys. You wonder what is going on and why he hasn't replied. You notice he is ignoring texts. You begin to be hurt and wonder what you could have done. You think of how amazing that first moment you shared together was. A few days later, he texts you and your spirits soar. You feel happier than you have been in a very long time. You may feel stupid for thinking that something so amazing could have actually gone down the drain. You begin talking again and he brings up all of the feelings and "good times'. The crush you had on the guy comes back in full force and then, a few days later, you guys quit talking again. You begin to wonder what has happened. You ask yourself, "What have I done?" This cycle seems to repeat itself multiple times and you begin to feel that he is playing with your emotions. What do you do?

      Well lets start by analyzing the situation. Ask yourself a few questions.

1.      What does he normally talk to me about when we start talking?

2.      When does he stop talking to me? After he gets what he was asking for? After it has been a while and he hasn't gotten what he is asking for?

3.      How did our friendship start? Under what circumstances?

4.      Did we ever talk about getting together? Did it actually happen?

5.      What kind of a guy is he? Is he a ladies man who always seems to be flirting with girls or a kind loving guy to every girl he meets.?

             Ok, so in this situation, you need to sort things out and do it fast. Talking to the guy in all seriousness could be one option, but you need to keep in mind that if he wants something from you, he is going to do what he needs to to get it. That includes lying. So make sure that if you do go and talk to him, that you make sure to play s many games with him to catch him in any kind of lie. When a lie is exposed, you have your answer. He is in it to 'get it.'

            Now, assuming that he is in it to get it, this guy does not seem to be on the careful side of things. He knows he can get what he wants from you because he knows you like him and want to be with him. He gives you tastes of 'the good times' in order to keep the crush going. He knows that if he loses that crush, that he will no longer be able to get what he wants. He might even go as far as saying that you two should get together and make it official. You will notice, that that will not happen. He knows that if he dates you 'officially', he will not be able to get what he wants from other victims such as yourself. Now, you may ask why I use the term victim. Here is why: you are a victim of the game that guys tend to know how to play a little too well. Guys tend to know just how to get what they want and many times, it's by playing with your feelings.

            Here is what I suggest doing in this situation; decide whether it's worth it. Are you happy that he is playing with your feelings? Do you want him to continue playing with your feelings so that he can use you? Do you like being this guy's toy? Now, if you don't, then you need to take the appropriate action. You need to talk to him straight up but don't let him get in your head. He will be trying his best to keep you wanting him. You need to sort everything out. Tell it like it is. Then end it. You need to cut the ties with this guy. Block his number or ignore him. Give him the cold shoulder. It might seem really cruel to do this, but think of what he has done to you. You need to realize that this guy is only there for the stuff he gets from you. Whether its just because you make him happy when he needs to be, or because he has other, more sensual goals in mind. And don't underestimate him. What I mean by that is this; don't think that just because he is trying really had to keep you, telling you all these things, and being such a sweetheart, that he actually wants you. A guy who is truly out to get it, will do what ever he needs to. Sweet talking is one of the most common and most effective ways of reaching that goal.

            One thing you need to look out for the most, is lying. At times he might seem to be ignoring you, but then later in the day he texts you. What has he been doing? Well just keep in mind that often times, guys like that wont reply periodically. Why? Because they are doing what they want to do with you, with someone else. Guys who are out to get some normally have more than one girl in their grasp. Do not let yourself be a part of his horrendous practices.

            Please, as you go about removing this guy from your life, remember why you're doing what you're doing. At times it will be hard. You will want him. He is your weakness. But just remember, you do not want to be used. You, as a woman, are deserving of only the best of the best. Remember that you are better than him. Do not let yourself sink down to his level and give in. stand up, and be strong.